This is part 2 of my simple guide to a fulfilling life series. If you missed the first part you can read it here.
My name’s Daniel and I’m on a mission to help those who are searching for a way to live a fulfilling life.
What follows are things most of us do that are actually hurting us and impeding us from feeling good about life. I’ve divided the blogs into bite sized chunks and will give you 5 things you should stop doing, at a time.
Change your way of thinking and get ready for a tsunami of positive vibes.
STOP BEING AFRAID OF FAILING
If you don’t fail, you’re not trying hard enough. Imagine you’d quit after falling off your bike for the first time? Almost no one gets it right the first time. It takes a lot of trial and error. You have to fail so you can learn from your mistakes and get closer to success. Forget the stigma that if you fail, you’re a loser. Losers are only the ones who fail and don’t get back up.
STOP PLAYING IT SAFE
Get out of your comfort zone. If you play it safe, you’ll never know what you are capable of. You have to push yourself sometimes to see where you end up. New ways of thinking occur when we are faced with new situations that we don’t have a process for. Sailing uncharted waters, although scary, will undoubtedly give you a new perspective and new ways of doing things.
STOP TRYING TO AVOID RISK
Everything in life is a risk; it is inevitable. The difference between parachuting and crossing the street, is not that one poses a risk and the other doesn’t, it’s that you are used to crossing the street so the risk is not so present. The more you do something, the less worried about the risk you become. There are times though, when you will be faced with completely new situations that pose a prominent risk. It’s the first time you’ve done this, so experience won’t help. What do you do? Well, instead of trying to avoid the risk, try minimizing it. In other words, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. If you want to start a business, don’t quit your job just yet. If you want to invest money, don’t put it all in one stock. If you want to run a 10k marathon and have never done one before, then start with something smaller. In any case, don’t let risk get in the way of your happiness.
Criticizing people, things or ideas is one of the worst things you could waste your time on. For starters, it adds nothing to the conversation. People who criticize often have no idea how something should be, therefore answering to their negative words will only start an argument. Secondly, it’s nothing but toxic. Criticism is usually direct and unapologetic. It’s a sure fire way to demotivate and hurt someone’s feelings. Lastly and most importantly, it won’t make things better. If you wanna help, then be specific as to what you didn’t like. For example, if I made you a burger, and then asked you how it was, you could say: “I didn’t like it” , “worst burger ever!” , “that’s not a burger”. The problem is that I wouldn’t know where to begin to improve it. A better approach would be to tell me that the meat was too dry or that it was too salty or that the bread was falling apart or that there was too much sauce on the burger. This way, I don’t have to start all over again from scratch. I know what is good about it and what to fix.
STOP DOING A JOB THAT DOESN’T FULFILL YOU
Out of the 24 hours we have in a day, we spend 6-8 hours sleeping, 8-10 hours working and commuting, and only a few hours for everything else. This means we spend most of our time, either sleeping or working. How would you feel about sleeping night after night, in an uncomfortable bed that doesn’t let you get a good night’s sleep, gives you body aches and constant back pain? How quickly do you think you would try to fix this situation? Then why do you work somewhere that makes you feel stressed, burnt out, unhappy and emotionally spent, and do nothing about it? When you do a job that fulfills you, satisfies you and makes you feel good about yourself, you approach those few hours a day you have for your family, your friends and your hobbies with much more passion and eagerness. A good mattress also helps!